it is not biphobic nor transphobic to say no to a date.
it is homophobic and transphobic to claim it was reasonable to assault, rape and murder as heterosexual men do in court
Every person is allowed to say no, I am not interested, not attracted.
that is the opposite of a fear, which is what a phobia is.
To not want the difference between hetero, gay or lesbian which is a sexuality mismatch with a bisexual person
and a gender mismatch for heteros, gay men, bisexual males and females and lesbians with persons who are transgender; as an the outward appearance and a mismatch with the gender one desires intimacy and sex with – the clothes away from heterosexual, but combined with the co-opting feminist intersectionality theory and pushing a penis into it; and especially the pornography term cotton ceiling, the confession of fetishization of lesbians, which frustration is not ours to resolve. Human rights recognition is all that is owed – dignity in the public square
and the loss of safe and crisis space for women – such as rape and battered women’s shelters for mostly heterosexual women, but also bisexual and lesbians – and the newly emerging pansexuals
seeking safety from partners who control the language, the financial and relationship decisions, and who cannot accept a no inside or before a relationship even.
and bisexuals having the usual of being thought to be more likely to cheat, while being sought by men for threesomes
each person identifies themself in terms of who they are and who they seek to date.
heterosexuals, gay men, bisexuals and lesbians are clear in that by the words.
the pansexual group is distinct from bisexual and is a word that includes attraction to transpersons
to each group their own label to advertise who a person is seeking to partner with, monogamously or polygamously with informed consent
and anyone who complains they are unable to get dates, need to work on their appeal, not cry fowl, bigotry, name call, complain about stereotypes or social standards, and generally demonstrate what an unappealing and inconsiderate person one is of other people’s human rights and identity
which, a demographic which forms a dating pool, such as lesbians or gay men, everyone is not secretly bisexual or trying to mimick heterosexuality
and a person feeling like they belong is demonstrated by those in the dating pool not including them
and while a person may have a diagnosis of trans, or be uncomfortable with one’s own body – it is not up to any other person to date you and ignore their own senses and own identity to be validator
Lesbians are vagina experts as gay men are penis experts
bisexuals enjoy both, but not a blend of both genders in one body
and bisexuals can date each other, as well as often heterosexuals, gay men and sometimes lesbians, which prior to marriage equality, bisexual women tended to have longer relationships with men, and bisexual men did too.
pansexuals date whoever; because everyone is dating another person.
no one enjoys being a fetish across demographics especially
nonbinary is an emerging demographic which has yet to form a clear recognition in and out of the demographic and males may not self identity out of being part of the gender oppressing women and the majority of the violence and sexual violence threats, any more than women may nonbinary self identify away from potential harm – and no women’s sexuality protects them the socialized and individual male gender caused violence.
Lesbians are not the caretakers and validators of the rest of the letters who are unclear on what lesbian means an apparently are okay with rape culture when no does not mean no anymore but a challenge to escalate to name calling and shaming.
Transpeople are not marginalized by gay and lesbian and bisexuals, but by their population statistics, with most seeking relationships with heterosexual men
Lesbians get to date other lesbians, without being shamed or excluded from the community which is ignoring lesbians have a right to say no to a date with anyone, but also as a demographic to say transwomen are not lesbians and are a category of incel – to be polite, for lesbians, transwomen are clothes from heterosexuality – and transphobia is the hetero justification for rape and murder – so the lesbian no to a date is very much the opposite; and in the case of a transwomen and a lesbian, it is the lesbian who is the rape vulnerable body; especially if denied a no to a date, which means not having a no to sex, which is denied informed consent, a no and by the logic extreme, even the safeword to end sex when the sex is unwanted or the scene includes something not consented to.
We helped Gay men with Aids after the heteros women did not help lesbians after they got reproductive and workplace rights
Lesbians are woman centric, and we have the choice and right to be
without being slurred, shamed or judged for who we do not date
any more than who we do
in fact, everyone needs to stop being bothered because most people are not dating you
and stop being bothered who is dating who
and stop harassing others who have nothing to do with your life nor you theirs
Hetero men who name called when refused dates are bad behaviour and any women who denies lesbians or any person a no on a date – which is a personal choice, and not a human rights issue – is part of the problem of dating.
to each person preference of desire and to the choice of sexual selection and intimate relations
Lesbians helped heterowomen get reproductive and workplace rights and then they went off and enjoyed those… then there was AIDs….. and now… this:
*article quotes*
However, our findings throw up several questions:
Who is on the wrong side of history when the GBT community operates a large-scale gaslighting of lesbians to accept the mantra that “trans women are women”; penises are deemed to be a female organ; and heterosexual intercourse is now redefined as a lesbian sexual practice? Who is on the wrong side of history when the GBT community uncritically supports a population of transwomen who identify as lesbians to coerce lesbians into having sex with transwomen against their will? Who is on the wrong side of history when lesbians’ sexual boundaries are disrespected and publicly demonised as hateful by the very charities whose purpose it is to defend them? Who are the GBT organisations protecting by refusing to engage with lesbians’ very serious concerns? Major gay, bisexual and trans organisations such as Stonewall and Pride in London should hang their heads in shame for ignoring our rights.
stop demanding dating as a condition of human rights support
that has to go both ways and to deny a no is to deny rights
lesbians do not expect their lesbian partners to be pregant and if the partner is a transwoman, it is very foolish to expect a lesbian to be sad she cannot get a transwoman pregnant. when the pregancy risk is the other way.
lesbian and gay sex is not procreative sex and that is part of it’s appeal and attraction.
Generational change is inevitable, healthy, and necessary to progress. What I am living through right now is a painful transitional moment in which some of those older lesbian institutions are still going strong, and seeking participation and funding, while a current generation of activists are distancing themselves from such events, or even demonstrating against them. Younger, queer activists were vocal in opposing the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival; right-wing religious groups once eager to shut the festival down had moved on to bigger targets. This dynamic—a next generation of feminists attacking earlier lesbian institutions and disparaging their participants as less evolved—is not unique to the 21st century or the United States; it is embedded in Jill Gardiner’s powerful book From the Closet to the Screen, which describes a 1970–71 Gay Liberation Front “zap” against London’s Gateways Club bar. As this generational shift grinds on, how should the most recent decades of cultural production be interpreted, understood, and preserved? How will we use the tools of history to examine something we know existed as an investigable community?
sometimes bisexual is a portion of a woman’s life and she later lesbians and maybe call me then, see if I am available.
sometimes a person is attracted to a person because they are unclear on their own self and what they are attracted to, that personality of a sexuality and gender person.
so when bisexual women end up with men or are a phase but are not a phase. it is as exhausting as men who say they are women and then dress like women and surgically mutilate their bodies. still not women and do not define lesbian words.
i am attracted to vagina and not interested in a penis or a reverse penis hole that lacks a gspot or cervix and a woman around it.
meanwhile. bisexual and pan women and transwomen are able to date each other, without lesbians having to date outside of our group preference arising from our individual choices and preferences.
I am a lesbian, the word is gender and sexuality in one, seeking the same expression in another lesbian.
Lesbian erasure is the tendency to ignore, remove, falsify, or reexplain evidence of lesbian women or relationships in history, academia, the news media, and other primary sources.
Lesbians may also be ignored within the LGBT community and their identity may not be acknowledged
attraction to someone is not done by debate or framework
it is a physical response and an emotional reaction to the personality
lesbians have no reason to be made to feel that they have to date any person, trans or not and no one should deny anyone a no
I don’t like this modern trend in the community where some are calling others bigots or trsnsphobes for being attracted to just one set of genitals and not the other. I’m sorry, but we aren’t all pansexual or bisexual. Sexual attraction is not just about gender as many would have you believe. It’s also about biological sex and always has been, whether we like it or not. It isn’t fair to label someone a bigot or judge their character for their sexual attractions. Sexual attraction is NOT a choice and never has been. That is a fact that seems to be lost on more and more people in the community these days.
nina yes. exactly. people with a wider range of attraction do need to stop calling monosexuals bigots for gay or lesbian sexuality.
and there is no reason to be sorry or that canadian as to say it to soften the view you are legit able to hold and express. and that is legit on the face of it
and the idea of removing biology from understanding people is also very bizarre, especially given dating is sexual selection and not a human rights issue.
name calling just validates a no on dating, as it is a major red flag on what a relationship would be. Dating is about attraction to and is selecting for sexual activity and as such, is a personal choice that everyone has a yes or no on, without threat of name calling, assault, rape or murder. Being rejected as a date is not a human rights complaint.
Alex C
Yeah, removing biology is a good way to put it. Some are 100% pan and 0% concerned with any biology or anatomy, and good for them, but we aren’t all like that. I can’t pretend to be pansexual to make that community happy, that would be like asking a straight person to pretend to be gay, and calling them a bigot for not being gay attracted. That’s absurd, and I hope this trend doesn’t stick or it will be very unhealthy for the community.
As a cis gay man I’ve always found the prospect of gay trans men interesting. I sometimes find myself attracted to trans men. Most that I’ve met in person seem to be interested in women though.
nina
I do not use the term cis, it has too many problems with the sissy slur and copting from black culture sounding like sis and. your identity is in your world experience. not other people’s who need other words to make sense of themself.
it is hard to have a conference on women and exclude mensuration, abortion/pregnancy and, menopause as panels and discussion/information.
nor should anyone pretend to be attracted to who they are not or use a label to avoid being name called.
bisexuals vs pansexual is a horrible debate too, bisexual being binary attraction and pan being beyond binary should be a compromise
Alex C
I personally don’t like the term pansexual because in fact there are NOT a panorama of sexes. There are 2 biological sexes, and in rare cases intersex. Pansexual refers to an attraction to multiple genders, and gender is a distinct concept from biological sex, so they really should describe that differently and not fight with people who are bisexual.
nina
bi vs pan is not about either one of those, it is about transgender. and it is about making gender something in a person’s mind and that is kinda like having to respect a person’s religion when you are an atheist.
once you reject the idea that there is only one hetero way to be either gender, it is not hard to realize there are many ways to be. personality and character is not limited to sexuality/gender and for lesbians there is one word that includes both, given faggot was not reclaimed by gay men.
Alex C
Gender is a social construct and a personal issue. I don’t like when people misuse science and try to say that science proves anything about gender. It doesn’t. Science only proves biological sex, and shows there’s a spectrum of hormonal balances, brain chemistry and neurological patterns that usually correspond to one biological sex but don’t always, and many people (including me) exist somewhere on that spectrum. We’re just getting caught up in stupid labels with all this infighting about what is factual and what isn’t, and who is “woke” and who isn’t. The science is very clear.
nina
how gender is represented and expected is a cultural concept that does vary, but that people have a gender is biology. I agree – it is also like religion vs biology, when biology says nothing about religion, and anthropology puts religion in it’s cultural place.
academics, medical, legal and then average people understanding differs across jargon specific vs casual use of language – and then are the agenda activists.
MEANWHILE:
everyone is one person and not any or all others.
“all identities simultaneously” – anyone else wondering how self loathing is driving this?
The film depicts Wagemans making the prototype for a futuristic mask, a piece of hackable body equipment that would incorporate software and could conceptually queer the notion of identity. “The story Samuel created is about documenting the making of a mask that is a fictive hacked nano-tech transhuman prototype that connects a global network of queer people who reject the mainstream appetite for immortality, super-intelligence, and well-being,” she told Dazed. “An object that you could take off and allows any uncensored software to be installed like scrambled identity – becoming all identities simultaneously.”
March 12, 1958 Jazz singer Billie Holiday, who had pled guilty to a narcotics-possession charge in 1956, is given a year’s probation by a Philadelphia court.
Openly bisexual, Holiday had several affairs with men and women
1985
first memorial to the Nazi’s gay victims unveiled: a pink granite stone monument at the former Neuengamme concentration camp, inscribed “Dedicated to the Homosexual Victims of National Socialism.”
1986, (in response to the above, not occurring on this day:)
I was the only student in my Canadian history class at Princess Margaret Secondary School, Surrey BC, who was allowed to know about gays and lesbians in the camps. I was not allowed to tell the others because we were not supposed to know that LGBTQ2 existed in 1986.
History students from many lower mainland of BC high schools were bussed to the University of BC for a holocaust conference.
1988
Rick Astley’s “Never Gonna’ Give You Up” unseated “Father Figure” by George Michael for #1
from wikipedia
Released in the United Kingdom in December 1987, “Father Figure” reached number eleven on the UK Singles Chart – the first time Michael had failed to reach the top ten in his home country. The song remained a live favourite at Michael’s concerts for many years and is also one of his most frequently aired songs on the radio in the United Kingdom.
In the United States, “Father Figure” became George Michael‘s sixth number one single (including three number one singles garnered as half of Wham!). “Father Figure” debuted at number 49 on 16 January 1988, while “Faith” was still prominent (at number nine) in the top ten of the chart. In the subsequent weeks, “Father Figure” was a surefire hit, reaching number one by its seventh week, 27 February 1988, staying at the top for two weeks. Altogether, the single spent six
Chart (1988–2016)
Peak position
weeks in the top ten, nine weeks in the top twenty, and 14 weeks in the top forty.
that is not accurate. a democracy majority rules in who hold office. it has nothing to do with street crime. and if it was true that the idea was to protect against the majority, then white hetero men would not still be in charge almost exclusively. and LGBTQ2 would have gotten rights decades ago
that meme makes it sound like the democrat party will take your bike while the republican party will let you keep it…
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Jason Harris (the poster of the above image I replied on)
You said it but like most Democrats you forgot the Constitutional part
this queer blogger you are a republican nazi and are part of the problem.
👍 1 this queer blogger the meme is misleading and false, just like republicans
I am not an American, I am a Canadian very concerned about the USA. #LestWeForget
Jason Harris
Lol lets see how many executive orders did Joe Biden sign in his first month? After saying if you rule by executive order you’re a dictator. Your brainwashed and are the problem. But it’s ok your Canadian so I understand.
And oh yah hashtag sleepy joe might remember something
this queer blogger yay, bot, your heterosexual male right wing vs heterosexual male left wing taunts have no effect on a Canadian Lesbian, and your lack of response to the comments also suggest you are more bot than person.
this queer blogger @mewe group owner
I have spotted a suspected bot of a trumpian troll
Jason Harris
So because I dont agree with you and you call me a nazi I’m a bot troll you really are a joke. Oh yeah the Democrats cheated to steal the election. And I think I spotted a communist.
this queer blogger
no. because you respond like a bot, you repeat your insults and no facts and do not reply to the substance of the post you botspam spewing trash
Jason Harris
Like I was supposed to respond to you telling me about your sexual preference like I care
this queer blogger
because you are a right wing and a heterosexual white man who does not define other people or words and does not have a valid opinion based on your content of meaningless bullet points not even your words, just party whining and trash talk
Jason Harris
In your automatic response of calling people a Nazi is it batish give me a break. Have a nice night I got better things to do like to recharge my batteries
this queer blogger
indeed, you do not care about anything but your own opinion, why there is no difference between heterosexual white men and internet trolls in the first place.
I don’t know why this is even gets attention when there are more serious issues at hand?
For examples:
Why is Valdamere Putin allowed to live and rule Russia when he’s another Adolf Hitler?
Why are Russians racist, homophobic, misogynistic hateful bigots?
WTF is wrong with devout extremist religious people and their hate for science and reason, their hate for universal human rights and lastly why are they such bigoted blind sheep?
Why are there’s an anti LGBTQ rallies in B.C. Canada and Poland?
Why there’s a rise of racism and racial decisions?
Why religious people neglecting to protect themselves from COVID-19?
Finally: Why, why is Trump so fucking stupid?
because christian and muslim are the same religion, part of judaism and the Abrahamic trilogy would rather destroy the planet than allow others to pursue happyiness.
this I posted as a normal news as a break from Putin having a north pole base and the geo political instability. and Canada has no federal government and is facing a throne speech and confidence vote in the fall while there is a pandemic.
blue collar jobs do not pay as well as brains at workstations jobs and religion undermined education. so while Canadians are over educated and underemployed, Americans are unqualified to get back the jobs they outsourced in the 1970s
religion gives people that feel good about poverty and the scapegoat gives them someone to blame for the problems they are the cause of.
preachers preach poverty is noble and they live in mansion complexes with private planes and own networks…. so when they help themselves to children, teenagers and vulnerable adults… this is why the personal is the political because it just represents. predators who prey…
putting the fun back in fundamentalist the fear that somewhere someone is having fun.
okay – if you did not do a thing and someone said they had video (never mind that we pretty much have the tech to create such a video)
the inability to prove a negative problem, but also a confession
the more powerful in public the more submissive in private
tradition on their side and 3. religion is why the planet does not have nice things like no war and universal health care and human and environmental rights.. but especially human ones.
If you are truly incapable of distinguishing between an act of love and an act of hatred, then you need to sit down for a very long, very careful re-evaluation of your life.
If on the other hand you’re intentionally not distinguishing between an act of love and an act of hatred, then you need to sit down for a very long, very careful re-evaluation of your soul.
given that the religious relationship between the deity and the follower could be on the domestic abuse relationship checklist… they really are unable to distinguish.
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I’ll never get “Conservative queers”. Is it some sort of Stockholm syndrome?
“Yeah, I know they want to crush, eradicate, and ban everything about me, including sometimes my actual life. But…I dunno. Just look at them! They’re so powerful. Totally dominant. How can you resist that? It just makes sense when they say it.” 🙄