it is not biphobic nor transphobic to say no to a date.
it is homophobic and transphobic to claim it was reasonable to assault, rape and murder as heterosexual men do in court
Every person is allowed to say no, I am not interested, not attracted.
that is the opposite of a fear, which is what a phobia is.
To not want the difference between hetero, gay or lesbian which is a sexuality mismatch with a bisexual person
and a gender mismatch for heteros, gay men, bisexual males and females and lesbians with persons who are transgender; as an the outward appearance and a mismatch with the gender one desires intimacy and sex with – the clothes away from heterosexual, but combined with the co-opting feminist intersectionality theory and pushing a penis into it; and especially the pornography term cotton ceiling, the confession of fetishization of lesbians, which frustration is not ours to resolve. Human rights recognition is all that is owed – dignity in the public square
and the loss of safe and crisis space for women – such as rape and battered women’s shelters for mostly heterosexual women, but also bisexual and lesbians – and the newly emerging pansexuals
seeking safety from partners who control the language, the financial and relationship decisions, and who cannot accept a no inside or before a relationship even.
and bisexuals having the usual of being thought to be more likely to cheat, while being sought by men for threesomes
each person identifies themself in terms of who they are and who they seek to date.
heterosexuals, gay men, bisexuals and lesbians are clear in that by the words.
the pansexual group is distinct from bisexual and is a word that includes attraction to transpersons
to each group their own label to advertise who a person is seeking to partner with, monogamously or polygamously with informed consent
and anyone who complains they are unable to get dates, need to work on their appeal, not cry fowl, bigotry, name call, complain about stereotypes or social standards, and generally demonstrate what an unappealing and inconsiderate person one is of other people’s human rights and identity
which, a demographic which forms a dating pool, such as lesbians or gay men, everyone is not secretly bisexual or trying to mimick heterosexuality
and a person feeling like they belong is demonstrated by those in the dating pool not including them
and while a person may have a diagnosis of trans, or be uncomfortable with one’s own body – it is not up to any other person to date you and ignore their own senses and own identity to be validator
Lesbians are vagina experts as gay men are penis experts
bisexuals enjoy both, but not a blend of both genders in one body
and bisexuals can date each other, as well as often heterosexuals, gay men and sometimes lesbians, which prior to marriage equality, bisexual women tended to have longer relationships with men, and bisexual men did too.
pansexuals date whoever; because everyone is dating another person.
no one enjoys being a fetish across demographics especially
nonbinary is an emerging demographic which has yet to form a clear recognition in and out of the demographic and males may not self identity out of being part of the gender oppressing women and the majority of the violence and sexual violence threats, any more than women may nonbinary self identify away from potential harm – and no women’s sexuality protects them the socialized and individual male gender caused violence.
Lesbians are not the caretakers and validators of the rest of the letters who are unclear on what lesbian means an apparently are okay with rape culture when no does not mean no anymore but a challenge to escalate to name calling and shaming.
Transpeople are not marginalized by gay and lesbian and bisexuals, but by their population statistics, with most seeking relationships with heterosexual men
Lesbians get to date other lesbians, without being shamed or excluded from the community which is ignoring lesbians have a right to say no to a date with anyone, but also as a demographic to say transwomen are not lesbians and are a category of incel – to be polite, for lesbians, transwomen are clothes from heterosexuality – and transphobia is the hetero justification for rape and murder – so the lesbian no to a date is very much the opposite; and in the case of a transwomen and a lesbian, it is the lesbian who is the rape vulnerable body; especially if denied a no to a date, which means not having a no to sex, which is denied informed consent, a no and by the logic extreme, even the safeword to end sex when the sex is unwanted or the scene includes something not consented to.
We helped Gay men with Aids after the heteros women did not help lesbians after they got reproductive and workplace rights
Lesbians are woman centric, and we have the choice and right to be
without being slurred, shamed or judged for who we do not date
any more than who we do
in fact, everyone needs to stop being bothered because most people are not dating you
and stop being bothered who is dating who
and stop harassing others who have nothing to do with your life nor you theirs
Homo\Trans -phobia is how Heterosexual men justify the rape and often murder of a gay/bisexual man, a transwoman or bisexual woman and lesbians, and those who do not conform to an individual’s idea of humanity.
Hetero males feel entitled to insult, assault, rape and murder:
any woman who says no, especially, lesbians, to whom they claim all women are bisexual or that the hetero man is also a lesbian owing to also liking women.
any man who asks for a yes, especially gay men who are told they are basically woman
any person who the heterosexual male thinks tricked them.
Given that Bisexuals, Gay Men and Lesbians are not assaulting or raping or murdering transpersons, it is not phobia that results in a no to a date.
In fact, no to a date is the opposite of phobia, owing to being disinterest and non attraction.
In the dating world, a person who responds poorly to the no is not the victim, but the predator who thinks name calling, debate including fighting over what words mean – demonstrates that they are going to be a poor relationship as well.
Further, the exclusion first of lesbians from LGBTQ2 along with the heterosexual women crisis and nonprofits addressing women’s social and health issues; should be a realization that transwomen are not about women’s issues; reproductive freedom, reproductive health of biological female bodies, as well as poverty, labour, housing, education and protection from and recovery from, violence, including the globaly sex trafficking, which disporportionately impacts women.
so, being told, in one breath, that saying no to an individual, means that I am “biphobic, transphobic, swerfphobic and islamophobic”
i reply, thank you for affirming my no to a date, which I can say no on any grounds, but primarily non-attraction, especially to this male negging and nagging
As a lesbian, and an atheist, and not required to put my physical or emotional well being at risk, I get to say no to a person who is any one or even all four of those things, and many other things as well.
Failure to respect a no to a date, is rape culture, given there would not be permitted any no, on said date, else same badgering, not bantering, not convincing, but bullying to define words with common meaning to other persons.
All religions have zero evidence and the willingness of followers to oppress and murder, is really mental illness, which being in denial of the reality of one’s body, including age, size/shape, number of limbs to genitals, is also a mental illness.
And it is men who typically walk around discussing their genitals, whether others want to or not, so transwomen are to lesbians, clothes away from heterosexual.
and given bisexuals do not tend to gravitate to transpersons as a mix of both worlds in one
along with morbidly obese, which this blogger has been my adult life
along with persons with not average person mental capacity
from the below to the far above, face challenges in the dating world
that being interesting, accomplishing something
rather than peak emotional validation seeking, and expecting others to agree to a self image that is not evidence by normal human perceptions of sight, sound, smell and taste, and hearing.
and most importantly, Intersectionality is about bridging ethnicity, for too long the Gay and Lesbians and trans were only what decadent white people did, bisexuals being unlabeled tourists,
so it is offensive to have that feminist theory wrapped around the genital’s that make feminism neccessary.
and words and phrases, no longer expectant mother, but chest feeder menstruating person, as if this function focus in male terms, removing breasts, fixating on blood and vaginal disgust.
with “gender” which is the understanding of a person with one and their sexuality define by what type of sex they desire – being used to mean “gender role” rather than a female or male person, seeking sex with the other, or both or own same.
Heterosexual and bisexual women dress for each other to compete for males, while lesbians dress to avoid the male gaze and appeal to other lesbians. in the 1990s, Dykes were gender bending, and shifting from butch and femme to a lesbian identity, while femmes and butches continued anyway and transmen, more evading the male gaze, or being bisexual, without name calling gay or bisexual men as lesbians are subjected to not reject transmen or transwomen owing to a cognitive dissonance of gender inequality.
Gay men and gay men doing drag had their own leather lad gym queen to twinks to transwomen
basically gender and sexuality combine as one’s presentation of who you are and who you seek to attract.
the pansexuals who say they are interested in people, are value judging monosexuals while expecting validation, without seeing the problem.
as for sex work, this is historically the oldest profession owing to women being limited to either wife/mother or sex workers from the bronze age temple prostitutions, to the interent which allows any person to be in the sex industry. whereas, most in it, are trafficked as children and teens, or are forced by limited cultural, education and career access and limited marriage options for women. who are sometimes also trafficked.
to call a person sexworker phobic is to ignore the brutal reality of sex work.
given a tendency for either monogamy or consenting poly, relationships with a sex worker who has no real consent ability, is not about phobia or prejudice, but self preservation
just as no one has to date a person who is terminal or chronically ill, no one signs on for caretaker –
unless they are a dangerous predator or a fetish fixation, few people are going to sign up for caretaker and validator, against their own well being and sexual attraction.
and any date under the duress of not allowed to say no under threat of name calling, will not result in any positive date experience and there is no blame for no date at all
No means no.
failure to respect a no is rape culture.
phallocentric porn is not a feminist theory: cotton ceiling is a fetish confession by transwomen, and denial of lesbian rights as individuals and as an identifiable demographic of non procreative sex between women attracted exclusively to women.
our brains are our best sex toy, and no one has to ignore their own senses
there is no way to have lesbian sex even with a post op transwoman
and no reason to try to make sure you do not like it
it is a variation of the just not had the right penis
which, there is none, when what attracts you is a person, who is interesting, enhances your life, brings out your best self, another lesbian.