Why No has to be accepted

no. not even married people are owed sex. maritial rape occurs.

no single person has a right to sex, because no one owes sex to another person.

human rights are in the public square dignity and civil access to the public square

each person has the right to decide who is and is not involved in their at home out of public square life with the word “no”

which, word “no” is to be accepted. Without negotiating, without debate, without name calling, withouth negging, without stalking, withouth assaulting, without raping and without murdering.

https://www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v40/n06/amia-srinivasan/does-anyone-have-the-right-to-sexAmia Srinivasan · Does anyone have the right to sex? · LRB 22 March 2018When we see consent as the sole constraint on OK sex, we are pushed towards a naturalisation of sexual preference in…www.lrb.co.uk

“Cotton ceiling” is the transwomen complaint that lesbians respect the human rights of trans but do not date.

then call lesbians terf and accuse us of bigotry

for the same characteristics that heterosexuals oppressed and marginalized us in law and society.

men with a diagnosis, not content with human rights respected for them – use a phrase refering to undergarments connected to their sexual frustration and inability to understand the word “no” and “lesbian” who then resorts to name calling, “terf” and claiming bigotry on the part of the lesbian.

who is rejecting a date with a clothes away from heterosexual person, who cannot accept a no for a date

when the person at risk of sexual harm and disappointment is the lesbian saying no, which, every woman and every person has a right.

one person’s human rights, does not void another

and the inability to accept a no for an in the public square social encounter – is to then deny a no to sex; which is in effect trying to legally validate rape before it occurs.

no person has to ignore their own senses, their own knowledge and understanding of the word owing to another person’s self image.

the entire person has rights, not ideas and not body parts

that transwomen are more often the victim crime stat than the perp one, does not reduce lesbians, gay men and bisexuals, along with the heterosexual men and women who are also victims in criminal statistics.

and transwomen, do not get to burden women with the crime stats that fit male criminal patterns and not women’s criminal patterns, which tend to also be as a partner with a male counterpart.

the reasons for and the types of crime varies between the two genders in a sexually reproducing species, where some percentage of the population are sexual non-procreatively oriented, with some being sexually orientied to non-procreative and to procreative sex.

and in nations where clothing is not restricted by law and socially enforced via peers; many people assert individuality by blending clothes, which is different than those from previous generations, where there were legal consequences to doing so. including death sentences by law or by persons who discovered objective reality.

lesbians are not “non-men”, we are not “heterosexual men in women’s bodies”. we are not defined phallocentrically.

http://sjwiki.org/wiki/Cotton_ceiling

lesbians do not seek out transwomen, males seek out transwomen for sexual encounters

https://read.dukeupress.edu/tsq/article/1/1-2/156/91737/PornographyPornography | TSQ: Transgender Studies Quarterly | Duke University Pressread.dukeupress.edu

so from being objectified by heterosexual males to having transwomen redefining lesbian…

demonstrating that transwomen are in the incel male group who are confused why women, especially lesbians do not have any interest in dating them

https://medium.com/@mirandayardley/girl-dick-the-cotton-ceiling-and-the-cultural-war-on-lesbians-and-women-c323b4789368Girl Dick, the Cotton Ceiling and the Cultural War on Lesbians and WomenThe Cotton Ceiling, coined by a male “lesbian” pornographer, refers to the barrier trans women face when denied access to sex with…medium.com

to pop culture – grooming for predators – a walk back through decades

400 year old vampire – the ultimate predator – groomed teenaged human girl…

training heterosexual girls, teens and women to seek out predators for protection

Internet sexual predators vs pop culture celebration of that very problem

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flowers_in_the_AtticFlowers in the Attic – Wikipediaen.wikipedia.org

how pop culture and pedophilia, and grooming women and children occurs

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0073115/The Story of O (1975) – IMDbThe Story of O: Directed by Just Jaeckin. With Corinne Cléry, Udo Kier, Anthony Steel, Jean Gaven. Photographer O’s lover takes her to a Château, where she is, like other women there, naked, humiliated by whipping, sexual abuse by men etc. When O leaves, her lover gives her to his much older step-brother.www.imdb.com

adult porn fetishizing children 1954

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Story_of_OStory of O – Wikipediaen.wikipedia.org

from pulp mass publication to the internet, interactive, and without an editor

People sometimes ask how p@rn is related to youth transitioning. This is a brilliant, tragic explanation.
https://pitt.substack.com/p/transgenders-connection-with-pornographyTransgender’s Connection with Pornography: It’s UndeniableI am a parent of female child who has Rapid Onset of Gender Dysphoria (ROGD). This is a new phenomenon where a child, who was perfectly happy in his or her body until right around puberty, suddenly announces that he or she is the opposite sex. In the case of my daughter, when she developed this condition, she threw away all of her feminine clothes, cut her hair super short, refused to go out in public without a chest binder and stopped shaving her legs. And, of course, she came up with a new male-sounding name and insisted that everyone use it, along with the associated male pronouns.Show Morepitt.substack.com

children who were groomed groom others and even adult women will defend the predators for the same was groomed reasons.. .meanwhile the lesbians who object to trans are being called terfs and blamed for the assaults, rapes and murders done by heterosexual men.

just to give a refresher – here is marketing and grooming 101

on a topic that is a bit less stressful than trying to legitimately protection children and teenagers, and also vulnerable younger adults

who in the normal intergenerational cycle have a rebellion against and an approval conformity need to be with peers rather than families

and with generations of adults who are gay, lesbian and bisexual, who as teens or children were thrown out of our families of origins

the why the teens and children are vulnerable to predators

and the need to protect spaces that protect the most vulnerable

women’s rape and crisis centres, and dedicated to women’s health information, safety, along with their teens and minor children

the criminal statistics of who perpetuates the most violence is heterosexual men across all ethnicities; with men with a diagnosis of trans given a veneer of academic university studies; prioritizing trans women over women; is a crisis in health care services, which all should be understanding this long into a global pandemic, the need for universal access, rather than for profit systems.

in the 1970s tv commercials stopped showing babies in only diapers owing to the realization that this was free pedophile porn delivered during the day time and early evening broadcast tv.

the 1980s was Web one: the Information highway, as the early internet was named, We are now in Web 3.0. and Web 2.0 was the social media era when anyone could be a content provider, and the public did not understand what the internet really was, and became content.

Web 1.0 was data sharing and only porn, behind paywalls, made money. computers were used by military, government, big businesses, and few people in western nations had a computer at home.

Web 2.0 social media, every western home had at least one computer, and only advertising made money; the internet extended thoughout the globe and the internet was the start of the global era of interconnected and directly contactable person to person.

Web 3.0 BIg Data and The Dark Web

those who feared the database in the 1980s, turned out to not be dire enough.

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/Media/Pages/How-Cigarette-Advertisements-Influence-Teens.aspxHow Cigarette Advertisements Influence Teens – HealthyChildren.org​The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) discusses the how cigarette advertising can influence teens.www.healthychildren.org

It is curious that heterosexual men who do the assault, rape and murder are not being held to account but rather women and especially lesbians

“homophobia” and “transphobia” are heterosexual male words to explain at court as reasonable obvious crimes

these words being used against lesbians with particular name calling , but also bisexuals, gay men and even heterosexuals for saying no to a date is to deny non-transgender persons their human right to make life decisions.

people forget the expression “wolf in sheep clothing”

why a no to a date is not phobic

Homo\Trans -phobia is how Heterosexual men justify the rape and often murder of a gay/bisexual man, a transwoman or bisexual woman and lesbians, and those who do not conform to an individual’s idea of humanity.

Hetero males feel entitled to insult, assault, rape and murder:

  1. any woman who says no, especially, lesbians, to whom they claim all women are bisexual or that the hetero man is also a lesbian owing to also liking women.
  2. any man who asks for a yes, especially gay men who are told they are basically woman
  3. any person who the heterosexual male thinks tricked them.

Given that Bisexuals, Gay Men and Lesbians are not assaulting or raping or murdering transpersons, it is not phobia that results in a no to a date.

In fact, no to a date is the opposite of phobia, owing to being disinterest and non attraction.

In the dating world, a person who responds poorly to the no is not the victim, but the predator who thinks name calling, debate including fighting over what words mean – demonstrates that they are going to be a poor relationship as well.

Further, the exclusion first of lesbians from LGBTQ2 along with the heterosexual women crisis and nonprofits addressing women’s social and health issues; should be a realization that transwomen are not about women’s issues; reproductive freedom, reproductive health of biological female bodies, as well as poverty, labour, housing, education and protection from and recovery from, violence, including the globaly sex trafficking, which disporportionately impacts women.

so, being told, in one breath, that saying no to an individual, means that I am “biphobic, transphobic, swerfphobic and islamophobic”

i reply, thank you for affirming my no to a date, which I can say no on any grounds, but primarily non-attraction, especially to this male negging and nagging

As a lesbian, and an atheist, and not required to put my physical or emotional well being at risk, I get to say no to a person who is any one or even all four of those things, and many other things as well.

Failure to respect a no to a date, is rape culture, given there would not be permitted any no, on said date, else same badgering, not bantering, not convincing, but bullying to define words with common meaning to other persons.

All religions have zero evidence and the willingness of followers to oppress and murder, is really mental illness, which being in denial of the reality of one’s body, including age, size/shape, number of limbs to genitals, is also a mental illness.

And it is men who typically walk around discussing their genitals, whether others want to or not, so transwomen are to lesbians, clothes away from heterosexual.

and given bisexuals do not tend to gravitate to transpersons as a mix of both worlds in one

transpersons,

along with morbidly obese, which this blogger has been my adult life

along with persons with not average person mental capacity

from the below to the far above, face challenges in the dating world

that being interesting, accomplishing something

rather than peak emotional validation seeking, and expecting others to agree to a self image that is not evidence by normal human perceptions of sight, sound, smell and taste, and hearing.

and most importantly, Intersectionality is about bridging ethnicity, for too long the Gay and Lesbians and trans were only what decadent white people did, bisexuals being unlabeled tourists,

so it is offensive to have that feminist theory wrapped around the genital’s that make feminism neccessary.

and words and phrases, no longer expectant mother, but chest feeder menstruating person, as if this function focus in male terms, removing breasts, fixating on blood and vaginal disgust.

with “gender” which is the understanding of a person with one and their sexuality define by what type of sex they desire – being used to mean “gender role” rather than a female or male person, seeking sex with the other, or both or own same.

Heterosexual and bisexual women dress for each other to compete for males, while lesbians dress to avoid the male gaze and appeal to other lesbians. in the 1990s, Dykes were gender bending, and shifting from butch and femme to a lesbian identity, while femmes and butches continued anyway and transmen, more evading the male gaze, or being bisexual, without name calling gay or bisexual men as lesbians are subjected to not reject transmen or transwomen owing to a cognitive dissonance of gender inequality.

Gay men and gay men doing drag had their own leather lad gym queen to twinks to transwomen

basically gender and sexuality combine as one’s presentation of who you are and who you seek to attract.

the pansexuals who say they are interested in people, are value judging monosexuals while expecting validation, without seeing the problem.

as for sex work, this is historically the oldest profession owing to women being limited to either wife/mother or sex workers from the bronze age temple prostitutions, to the interent which allows any person to be in the sex industry. whereas, most in it, are trafficked as children and teens, or are forced by limited cultural, education and career access and limited marriage options for women. who are sometimes also trafficked.

to call a person sexworker phobic is to ignore the brutal reality of sex work.

given a tendency for either monogamy or consenting poly, relationships with a sex worker who has no real consent ability, is not about phobia or prejudice, but self preservation

just as no one has to date a person who is terminal or chronically ill, no one signs on for caretaker –

unless they are a dangerous predator or a fetish fixation, few people are going to sign up for caretaker and validator, against their own well being and sexual attraction.

and any date under the duress of not allowed to say no under threat of name calling, will not result in any positive date experience and there is no blame for no date at all

No means no.

failure to respect a no is rape culture.

phallocentric porn is not a feminist theory: cotton ceiling is a fetish confession by transwomen, and denial of lesbian rights as individuals and as an identifiable demographic of non procreative sex between women attracted exclusively to women.

our brains are our best sex toy, and no one has to ignore their own senses

there is no way to have lesbian sex even with a post op transwoman

and no reason to try to make sure you do not like it

it is a variation of the just not had the right penis

which, there is none, when what attracts you is a person, who is interesting, enhances your life, brings out your best self, another lesbian.

the thing about lesbians

i am concerned the new generation of LGBTQ2 is doing a chant of transphobia/biphobia/sex worker phobia and islamophophobia all in one breath and without any analysis of each issue or understanding that these are not entirely related issues arising from patriarchy

that islam is genociding lgbt2 and against sex work – which is not a middle class side hustle, but a global problem of human trafficking and that bi/pan and trans women who are unable to accept a no without name calling to dating are behaving like the hetero incels, who , insult ,assault, rape and murder because they are unable to behavior in a dating positive manner .

in 2019, I attended a Vancouver BC Canada Dyke March Town Hall about trans inclusion organized by trans, and while the meeting had no agenda, there was one.

to speak only about the dangers faced by trans, as if no other group was under the same threat of assault rape and murder by white supremists,

the meeting did not allow any time for issues of ethnicity, despite attendees who were there to speak to, and included a heterosexual couple who claimed to be lesbians and who advocated violence against the police who were being hired to stand between the marchers and the white supremists

and included a half naked man wearing a naked barbie doll as a necklace like a truck mud flap who told women to play with their nipples during the day, which is sexual harassment –

lesbians and dykes are at risk of harm by hetero men we do not court and under pressure to date under threat of name calling, those we are not attracted to in a battle over words and across world views that differ and absent of understanding human rights in public are one thing and dating is a personal choice not subject to a vote. or decided by one person for another.

so..

the thing about being a lesbian is that others do not define lesbian labels. words or phrases or decide for lesbians and especially not ignore, treat causally or reject a no.

it is harassment and potentially criminal when hetero men respond to a no with insults, assaults, rape and murder, and it is not okay for women who are bisexual, pan, omni or trans to tell any women, particularly lesbians, that a no is bigotry and not allowed, rather than accept not attracted to and respect the person one presumes to be interested in.

phobia is a violent reaction, while no is disinterested, it is different from bigotry.

not heteros, not homosexuals. Lesbians are lesbians, same gender and sexuality attraction in one complete word.

indeed. human rights are for the public square

dating is for sex selection and a personal choice, for which, there is a no.

without insult, assault, rape or murder.

bad when males deny that and worse when other women do.

even this article avoids saying lesbians love vagina. so why would a lesbian be with any thing else?

the idea that a lesbian would not partner with a transwoman who can not have a child is beyond foolish on it’s face..

https://www.curvemag.com/blog/transgender/the-often-misunderstood-premise-of-the-cotton-ceiling/The Often Misunderstood Premise Of The Cotton Ceiling – CURVECassie Brighter focuses her writing on intersectional feminism.www.curvemag.com

Okay. : not attracted to is not bigotry or bias.

it is not attracted to the person’s physicality or mental energy.

being called phobic of bisexual, pan and trans is foolish on it’s face.

Lesbians are not murdering other women for not being lesbians

we are pro lesbian and want to date other same expression lesbians

and no one gets to put labels on or take labels away

Lesbian is not an umbrella term

we are lesbians or dykes, not homosexuals.

the decade of coming out matters when legal status has changed

and many terms are last century specific

https://medium.com/@mirandayardley/girl-dick-the-cotton-ceiling-and-the-cultural-war-on-lesbians-and-women-c323b4789368Girl Dick, the Cotton Ceiling and the Cultural War on Lesbians and WomenThe Cotton Ceiling, coined by a male “lesbian” pornographer, refers to the barrier trans women face when denied access to sex with…medium.com

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