why a no to a date is not phobic

Homo\Trans -phobia is how Heterosexual men justify the rape and often murder of a gay/bisexual man, a transwoman or bisexual woman and lesbians, and those who do not conform to an individual’s idea of humanity.

Hetero males feel entitled to insult, assault, rape and murder:

  1. any woman who says no, especially, lesbians, to whom they claim all women are bisexual or that the hetero man is also a lesbian owing to also liking women.
  2. any man who asks for a yes, especially gay men who are told they are basically woman
  3. any person who the heterosexual male thinks tricked them.

Given that Bisexuals, Gay Men and Lesbians are not assaulting or raping or murdering transpersons, it is not phobia that results in a no to a date.

In fact, no to a date is the opposite of phobia, owing to being disinterest and non attraction.

In the dating world, a person who responds poorly to the no is not the victim, but the predator who thinks name calling, debate including fighting over what words mean – demonstrates that they are going to be a poor relationship as well.

Further, the exclusion first of lesbians from LGBTQ2 along with the heterosexual women crisis and nonprofits addressing women’s social and health issues; should be a realization that transwomen are not about women’s issues; reproductive freedom, reproductive health of biological female bodies, as well as poverty, labour, housing, education and protection from and recovery from, violence, including the globaly sex trafficking, which disporportionately impacts women.

so, being told, in one breath, that saying no to an individual, means that I am “biphobic, transphobic, swerfphobic and islamophobic”

i reply, thank you for affirming my no to a date, which I can say no on any grounds, but primarily non-attraction, especially to this male negging and nagging

As a lesbian, and an atheist, and not required to put my physical or emotional well being at risk, I get to say no to a person who is any one or even all four of those things, and many other things as well.

Failure to respect a no to a date, is rape culture, given there would not be permitted any no, on said date, else same badgering, not bantering, not convincing, but bullying to define words with common meaning to other persons.

All religions have zero evidence and the willingness of followers to oppress and murder, is really mental illness, which being in denial of the reality of one’s body, including age, size/shape, number of limbs to genitals, is also a mental illness.

And it is men who typically walk around discussing their genitals, whether others want to or not, so transwomen are to lesbians, clothes away from heterosexual.

and given bisexuals do not tend to gravitate to transpersons as a mix of both worlds in one

transpersons,

along with morbidly obese, which this blogger has been my adult life

along with persons with not average person mental capacity

from the below to the far above, face challenges in the dating world

that being interesting, accomplishing something

rather than peak emotional validation seeking, and expecting others to agree to a self image that is not evidence by normal human perceptions of sight, sound, smell and taste, and hearing.

and most importantly, Intersectionality is about bridging ethnicity, for too long the Gay and Lesbians and trans were only what decadent white people did, bisexuals being unlabeled tourists,

so it is offensive to have that feminist theory wrapped around the genital’s that make feminism neccessary.

and words and phrases, no longer expectant mother, but chest feeder menstruating person, as if this function focus in male terms, removing breasts, fixating on blood and vaginal disgust.

with “gender” which is the understanding of a person with one and their sexuality define by what type of sex they desire – being used to mean “gender role” rather than a female or male person, seeking sex with the other, or both or own same.

Heterosexual and bisexual women dress for each other to compete for males, while lesbians dress to avoid the male gaze and appeal to other lesbians. in the 1990s, Dykes were gender bending, and shifting from butch and femme to a lesbian identity, while femmes and butches continued anyway and transmen, more evading the male gaze, or being bisexual, without name calling gay or bisexual men as lesbians are subjected to not reject transmen or transwomen owing to a cognitive dissonance of gender inequality.

Gay men and gay men doing drag had their own leather lad gym queen to twinks to transwomen

basically gender and sexuality combine as one’s presentation of who you are and who you seek to attract.

the pansexuals who say they are interested in people, are value judging monosexuals while expecting validation, without seeing the problem.

as for sex work, this is historically the oldest profession owing to women being limited to either wife/mother or sex workers from the bronze age temple prostitutions, to the interent which allows any person to be in the sex industry. whereas, most in it, are trafficked as children and teens, or are forced by limited cultural, education and career access and limited marriage options for women. who are sometimes also trafficked.

to call a person sexworker phobic is to ignore the brutal reality of sex work.

given a tendency for either monogamy or consenting poly, relationships with a sex worker who has no real consent ability, is not about phobia or prejudice, but self preservation

just as no one has to date a person who is terminal or chronically ill, no one signs on for caretaker –

unless they are a dangerous predator or a fetish fixation, few people are going to sign up for caretaker and validator, against their own well being and sexual attraction.

and any date under the duress of not allowed to say no under threat of name calling, will not result in any positive date experience and there is no blame for no date at all

No means no.

failure to respect a no is rape culture.

phallocentric porn is not a feminist theory: cotton ceiling is a fetish confession by transwomen, and denial of lesbian rights as individuals and as an identifiable demographic of non procreative sex between women attracted exclusively to women.

our brains are our best sex toy, and no one has to ignore their own senses

there is no way to have lesbian sex even with a post op transwoman

and no reason to try to make sure you do not like it

it is a variation of the just not had the right penis

which, there is none, when what attracts you is a person, who is interesting, enhances your life, brings out your best self, another lesbian.

june 10 for lgbtq2

1865

Richard Wagner’s “Tristan and Isolde” premiered in Munich, Germany.


Siegfried Wagner – Wikipediaen.wikipedia.org › wiki › Siegfried_Wagner

Siegfried Helferich Richard Wagner (6 June 1869 – 4 August 1930) was a German composer … Harden accused several public figures, most notably Philipp, Prince of Eulenburg-Hertefeld, a friend of Kaiser Wilhelm II, of homosexuality.
How Forbidden Love Benefited Opera | Psychology Today …www.psychologytoday.com › blog › checkpoints › ho…

Sep. 27, 2019 — Yet, his infatuation for Richard Wagner is perhaps most intriguing. Wagner was certainly not gay, having happily carried on a decade-long affair …
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Sep. 16, 2020 — “Do gay people care about Richard Wagner?” The woman … Wagner, who died in 1883, was one of Hitler’s favorite composers. His “Rienzi” …

1922

Born on this day, Judy Garland, singer, actress. Played Dorothy in the 1939 film ‘Wizard Of Oz’ sang ‘Over The Rainbow’ in the film, 1961 US No.1 comeback album ‘Judy At Carnegie Hall’. ‘Over The Rainbow’ was voted the ‘Song Of The Century’ in a 2001 poll published in America. She died June 22nd 1969 of a barbiturate overdose.

In gay slang, a “friend of Dorothy” (FOD) is a gay man; and more broadly, any LGBTQ person. Stating that, or asking if, someone was a friend of Dorothy was a euphemism used for discussing sexual orientation without others knowing its meaning.
Friend of Dorothy – Wikipedia

1925

Tennessee officials approved state public school use of a new biology text book that denied the theory of evolution.

1978

Olivia Newton-John and John Travolta teamed up to take “You’re The One That I Want” to the top of the Billboard chart. In the UK, the record would be number one for nine weeks.

1988

George Michael played the first of 6 sold-out nights at Earls Court in London, England, during his 137-date Faith World Tour. Tickets cost £14.50 ($25) and £12.50 ($21.25).

1989

Madonna’s ‘Express Yourself’, became her 18th UK Top 5 hit, a new record for a female artist.

Bette Midler achieves her only US number one record when “Wind Beneath My Wings” topped the Billboard chart. Although the song would only stay on top for a week, it would win Grammy Awards for Song Of The Year and Record Of The Year.

1993

Irish singer Sinead O’Connor took out a full-page ad in the Irish Times asking the public to “stop hurting me please.” She blamed her troubles on abuse she suffered as a child. O’Connor was still being criticized for ripping up a picture of the Pope during an appearance on Saturday Night Live the previous October.

2009

The daughter of Cher and Sonny Bono, Chastity was set to undergoing a gender change shortly after Bono’s 40th birthday in March and more than a decade after having come out as a lesbian.

2020
Taking a stand in the tragic death of George Floyd, the only daughter of Elvis, Lisa Marie Presley, showed her support of people of color: Lisa Marie Presley Supports #BlackOutTuesday in Solidarity

2021

Discrimination continues despite rights won at courts

https://www.marketwatch.com/story/almost-half-of-lgb-professionals-experience-discrimination-at-work-and-its-even-worse-for-people-of-color-11623350297Almost half of LGB professionals experience discrimination at work — and it’s even worse for people of color – MarketWatchBlack LGB professionals ‘experience the most intense discrimination based on their sexual orientation,’ a new report says.www.marketwatch.com

trans rights are going beyond housing, employment and participation in the public square – and are now in conflict with the protections gained by women owing to biology based oppression over human history across all cultures

and concerningly, removing language from government, medical and therapy which is used by women to describe women’s own gender experience and sexuality expression.

https://www.economist.com/europe/2021/06/12/continental-europe-enters-the-gender-warsContinental Europe enters the gender warsGermany and Spain reject laws on gender self-identification | Europewww.economist.com

unless this includes lesbians and gay men and bisexuals not dating transperson, this is not affirming of all identities

which, gay man and lesbian are same gender attracted – so, for these identities: transpersons are clothes away from heterosexual sex, which gay and lesbian sexuality is distinct from

the bisexual and pansexual bickering has to stop too

along with the recognition of transgender as a diagnosis

while nonbinary and androgenous are culture role rejecting personal expression

https://www.businessinsider.in/advertising/ad-agencies/news/to-normalise-acceptance-of-all-identities-and-pronoun-sharing-vmlyr-launches-a-new-website-with-vibrant-virtual-backgrounds-for-all-cis-transgender-and-non-binary-individuals/articleshow/83366440.cmsTo normalise acceptance of all identities and pronoun sharing, VMLY&R launches a new website with vibrant virtual backgrounds for all cis, transgender and non-binary individuals | Business Insider IndiaSharing and asking for correct pronouns is an act of better allyship. VMLY&R takes a step forward towards acceptance by launching a new website that offerswww.businessinsider.in

https://ew.com/tv/loki-gender-fluid-tom-hiddleston-teaser/Loki director confirms gender-fluidity of Tom Hiddleston’s trickster | EW.com‘Loki’ director says it was ‘important’ to make character’s gender-fluidity canon in the MCU.ew.com

just let that headline sink in…. Gender fluid trickster….

The Gold Standard: GOPs

Grand Old Party or Good Ole Boys.

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/08/07/donald-trump-campaign-november-election-weaponise-transgender-rights-lgbt/Trump campaign reportedly considering whether to weaponise transphobia to save the president’s flailing re-election bidConservatives in America are reportedly hoping Donald Trump will weaponise trans rights to revitalise his failing re-election bid.www.pinknews.co.ukS

I want to say this won’t gain him an inch of ground. Those who have such an attitude are already firmly in his camp. He’s lost moderates, not extremists. He might do better to come out somewhat (obviously not fully) supportive of transgender rights, to show he’s not entirely made of hatred and stupidity. He won’t lose any of his lunatic base, who he can still capture with hatred of minorities and “illegals”.

But that said, there a a lot of otherwise reasonable moderates who do get heebie-jeebies at transgender. 😕2 Replies

then I would call them regular conservatives, not “otherwise reasonable” nor “moderates”. in 2020 USA politics there is only the extreme, and both parties have been galloping right for some time

Socially extreme conservatives have punishing fiscal policy because of their hatred but do not disguise their motive, whereas so called moderates, fixate on the finances without admitting it is owing to their biases. The republican party only accepts LGBQ2 who are ethnicity bigots who think that will make them straight enough, and ethnicities who hate LGBTQ2 as if that will make them white enough.

remember when Clarence Thomas was promoted to the Boys Club and whereas Anita Hill joined the ranks of the ignored because his career was too important so his conduct was okay.

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/07/26/alaska-lgbt-discrimination-law-ketchikan-florist-gay-wedding/A florist ‘refused’ to make bouquets for a gay wedding, so the town decided to end discrimination once and for allAfter a local florist refused to make bouquets for a gay wedding, Ketchikan, Alaska unanimously passed sweeping non-discrimination laws for LGBT+ people.www.pinknews.co.ukShare (2)Emoji

Quirk Sugarplum6 hours ago

Once again, if you’re religious and are operating a business in the secular domain, then you by default must deal with all customers. If your conscience cannot permit this, that is your right. But if so, then you must trust in your God to provide another life path for you, and leave your business.1 Reply

nina tryggvason Owner5 hours ago

yes. cake is not art in the sense of legal purposes. this is why religion does not make a person good, only delusional. Children are told to not listen to their imaginary friends because look what happens when adults to. eh.

editted to:

yes. cake is not art in the sense of legal purposes of art, which is a creation to comment upon, rather than an item to be consumed to celebrate a live event. there is a line of art and line and this is the battleground issue as the “husband and wife” language to “spouse and spouse” to gender neutralize the oaths, and allow any couple to choose which words they want to represent their particular union depending on the pairing. this is why religion does not make a person good, only delusional about where one’s rights end and another’s begin. Children are told to not listen to their imaginary friends because look what happens when adults to. eh. children are taught to share and then that is how adults behave over things more important than things.

meanwhile in 2020. a victory of inclusion of sorts…

being rendered bland.. I am not sure this was the representation and inclusion we were looking for…

https://heavy.com/entertainment/2020/08/hallmark-wedding-every-weekend-gay-lesbian-movie/Hallmark’s Wedding Every Weekend Has 1st Gay or Lesbian Wedding | Heavy.comHallmark’s new August movie, Wedding Every Weekend, will include the first lesbian or gay wedding on the channel.heavy.comShare (1)Emoji

Quirk Sugarplum6 hours ago

Works for me. 😊

That said, it’s minimal inclusion. One couple out of four, and probably will be the most glossed-over segment. Give us a full-length and wonderfully romantic movie, Hallmark.1 Reply

a bad actually included is better than no inclusion at all… I guess

rights are not subject to mob rule

https://www.forbes.com/sites/bowmanmarsico/2020/07/28/the-march-of-public-opinion-on-lgbt-identity-and-issues/The March Of Public Opinion On LGBT Identity And IssuesIn 1973, when NORC’s General Social Survey first asked people about sexual relations between two adults of the same sex, 76% described them as always or almost always wrong. When NORC last asked the question in 2018, 34% gave that response.www.forbes.com

what about this compared to the hallmark?

from the article:

However, the series, which starts this week is more than just Desperate Housewives in hijabs. The smoking and swearing of the main characters has proved controversial, as has the tackling of issues such as child abuse and domestic violence, as well as same-sex relationships, which are illegal in Pakistan.

“Because we are showing such a diverse range of women, it was important to show the entire spectrum of sexuality. It would have been wrong if they were all straight because not all women in Pakistan are straight,” said Abbasi, who is based in Leeds.

There is also a transgender character. “The reason the women open the detective agency is to level the playing field for everyone who identifies as a woman, so a transgender character who identifies as a woman should be included.”

He added: “The fact that she’s transgender is not addressed on the show and that is deliberate. It’s not that I was overlooking her identity or ashamed of it. It was to show the women coming to the agency were all equal.”

https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2020/aug/08/lesbian-lovers-and-a-boxer-in-a-burqa-a-new-look-for-pakistani-tvLesbian lovers and a boxer in a burqa: a new look for Pakistani TV | Television & radio | The GuardianBritish-Pakistani filmmaker tackles sexual stereotypes in groundbreaking new drama series, Churailswww.theguardian.com

Quirk Sugarplum

Well, that does put things into perspective now, doesn’t it? 🤔

Maybe Pakistan has their own version of the Hallmark channel we can watch…?

nina tryggvason

better than queer baiting, but not by much. this seems more a rare view of heterosexual women with some lgbtq2 characters as a side

Gay for Pay vs Representation

Why Representation Matters: LGBTQ

Representation and Inclusion: Multicultural World

Representation, Death & Taxes

https://thepostmillennial.com/women-athletes-doxxed-by-lgbt-advocacy-site-for-support-of-women-in-sportsWomen athletes doxxed by LGBT advocacy site for support of women in sportsDespite the doxxing, the NCAA is taking a closer look at its own inclusive policies, and much of that must be a result of the 300 women athletes who signed their names to a letter asking them to do just that.thepostmillennial.com

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/04/07/indonesia-trans-woman-dead-burned-cilincing-north-jakarta/A mob accused a trans woman of stealing. After they couldn’t find anything on her, they burned her aliveA trans woman was beaten and burned alive by gang members who had accused her of theft, according to reports from Cilincing in North Jakarta, Indonesia.www.pinknews.co.uk

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/07/24/free-black-university-melz-owusu-decolonise-uk-curriculum-gofundme-fundraised-donate/Queer Black students are being failed by universities. This non-binary academic has a plan to change thatThe Free Black University plans to “redistribute knowledge” among Black students with the needs of those who are also queer and trans at the very heart.www.pinknews.co.uk

That there is a stigma with LGBTQ2 is the heterosexual disability to cope with others existing.

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/08/07/nhs-england-people-plan-lgbt-disabled-coronavirus-steve-russell-jackie-daniel-backlash/‘Absolutely shameful’ NHS England report disturbingly compares being LGBT+ to having a disabilityA major NHS England document drew criticism from healthcare providers after it appeared to characterise being LGBT+ as having a disabiity.www.pinknews.co.uk

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