back in the 1990s, A lesbian friend of mine tried to set me up with a friend of hers. I say tried, because she’d brought this gal along to a group outing without telling me it was a set up.
The gal was in a relationship with a man (living together) and was thinking she might be bi.
She was very confused since the people she talked to the boyfriend and our mutal friend both wanted her to pick sides. The boyfriend obviously wanted her to be straight, while the lesbian friend refused to believe in bisexuals and tried to influence her to be a lesbian.
And that’s where I came in. We talked, we danced and had a fun time – and when she was leaving the dance, I walked her outside to wait for her ride home to arrive.
She was nervous to be alone, and being the generous sort that I am, I put the cards on the table.
“Do you want me to kiss you now or when your roommate comes for show?”
“Now” she said, “I don’t want an audience.”
I was happy to be her first girl kiss, and it was pretty magical.
But then, she felt guilty and admitted that it was her roommate and her boyfriend who were due to arrive.
I told her that I had known, that our mutual lesbian friend had explained the situation to me.
I asked her if she was willing to leave the guy to explore her new identity and she said no.
I asked her if she’s given up other men for him – of course she said
So why does it matter if you’re happy with him that you’ve also given up women?
The relief that flooded her face and body was amazing.
I saw her another time for a friendly coffee and I went to a cafe where she was having an art show. I can only hope it’s as sweet a memory for her as it was for me.
Mostly I am glad that I was able to give her permission to enjoy her heterosexual relationship without guilt or pressure.
It’s funny to me how many times that I have been asked to give people permission to live the life that they want to; and every time, it’s been about sexuality.
If there’s anything a person should know about themselves, it’s sexuality. Know what you’re attracted to, what you like, and don’t be afraid to be yourself.
It doesn’t matter what you like, as long as you don’t harm other people – unless they give you permission to and establish a safe word.
https://dykewriter.wordpress.com/2018/10/15/revisited-bis-and-gals/
‘Am I Bisexual?’ 18 Bisexuality Signs from Experts and Real WomenIf you’re wondering, “am I bisexual?” read on for some common signs and experiences here, as explained by sexuality experts and women who know firsthand.www.womenshealthmag.combisexual is a spectrum, it is not a 50/50
but if one does not like to do the same to both genitalia, perhaps one is not actually bisexual
there is a difference between what is done to you
and what you do for your partner
so. when gender is part of what is attractive and also repulsive in terms of sexuality….
https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/dislike-oral-sex-advice.html
After Max And Ivan: Revisiting ‘The L Word’ As a Trans Masculine Person“In the 10 years since I first saw ‘The L Word,’ I’ve changed and so has the lens through which I understand the world; storylines that were just high drama then now make me cringe.”www.intomore.com
Unsung Heroes tells the story of WA drag king pioneer Effie Fellows – OUTInPerth – LGBTIQ News and Culture | OUTInPerth – LGBTIQ News and CultureBlack Swan State Theatre Company are diving into local history with an online performance series that reveals the untold stories of five incredible Western Australians. Unsung Heroes brings a world premiere season directed by Emily McLean and Joe Paradise Lui that brings together some of WA’s best local talent to bring the tales of WA’s …www.outinperth.comhttps://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-53936529
The saying “gender is between the ears and sexuality is between the legs” is easy to remember, but too simplistic. Your gender is whatever you feel and believe it is.
Believing in a gender binary, where only “men” and “women” exist, has created a stifling system where personality traits are attributed to one gender or the other. This ignores the vast intersections where male, female, and non-binary characteristics exist, co-mingle, and crossover.
What It Really Means To Be Genderfluid — And How It Affects Your Romantic Relationships | YourTangoWhat Is Genderfluid? Genderfluid Is Non-binary, Meaning An Individual Doesn’t Identify As A Specific Gender. But Having An Identity That Differs From Male Or Female Can Bring Issues With Romantic Relationships.www.yourtango.com
Groom didn’t know whether gender fluid fiancé would walk down aisle as a man or woman | Daily Mail OnlineAs Douglas Davidson, 51, from Scotland, stood at the alter, he had no idea whether gender fluid husband-to-be Chris Law, 37, would walk down the aisle as himself or ‘blushing bride’ Fiona.www.dailymail.co.ukhttps://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/uk-news/proud-mum-lgbt-family-says-18843039
how is the husband heterosexual with a tranman as a spouse?
https://www.dailyxtra.com/trans-straight-parents-family-177616
They had 8 years together before Andy realized he was male and began to transition. I expect Raj simply loves him for who he is and they’ve found a way to work things out.
People. Go figure.
everyone is their own expert and coupledom is up to any given couple, i have been pondering the relationship of heterosexuals who date BTQ2s vs those who are PFLAG allies so – this is an intellectual/academic question- how does one person identify as a heterosexual male when their partner is not a heterosexual woman? their relationship is more queer than a heterosexual male/ bisexual woman or a bisexual man/gay man.
it is good to know that for some couples, it does not change anything. as for the couples who separate and divorce even, that happens for many reasons as each person grows in their own way and when the couple is doing less than their best life. it is time to make changes.
let the heterosexual women who started slash fan fic have it, eh
Nine reasons Kirk should absolutely be bisexual in Strange New WorldsJames T. Kirk should absolutely be bisexual in Strange New Worlds — here’s why.www.syfy.comMEANWHILE. in the illogical extreme:
because age is a measurable thing outside of the human meaning.
time passes and is marked. aging.
humans are more complex than most worldviews allow and cultural expression is one thing, and individuals another.
https://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/lifestyle/stellar/if-people-can-be-gender-fluid-why-not-age-fluid/news-story/5814a2e30686d482cfb1db8a57b008af
Nineties Dyke 